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04 August 2010 @ 07:40 pm
There is a point in your adult life when you realize that your parents won't always be there. It probably happens earlier for other people. For me, I think it sunk in when I lost my significant other's father, unexpectedly.

I can't remember when I started reading this woman's blog and I am not sure I can explain why I do (I don't have kids, I don't know her, I don't even know her once removed, and she's not famous in any way). But I read it regularly, and she just finished posting a four-part series that made me cry.

What happens when your parents are no longer there even though you need them?
09 June 2009 @ 11:01 am
Yesterday, after a rousing oral argument focusing on whether the CAN SPAM Act is unconstitutionally vague and whether local community standards or a new national standard should be applied to determine if this particular spam was obscene (I swear this is way cool to law geeks), I ate lunch with this man and my judge. Being in a federal courthouse during argument means that it's not especially remarkable to have lunch with a federal judge, but Judge Trott is remarkable and made me think again about something.

Judge Trott is one of the Original Highwaymen, a group with which he has been performing since he was in undergrad in New England (Wesleyan then Harvard Law). He went on to become a DA, a United States Attorney, and worked in the Justice Department before Reagan appointed him to the Ninth Circuit. I'm sure everyone can imagine the amount of work it takes to be that successful as a lawyer, but to maintain his music career at the same time (he told the BEST story about performing with Johnny Cash at the Idaho State Fair) is incredible. He also (I doubt this is a complete list) writes and speaks to groups about American History, raises orchids, sits on the board of his local symphony, and is the official photographer for Boise State wrestling. The man packs more into his day than I think I can imagine. Which leads me to my point...

I realized in high school that I'm happiest when I'm really busy. In college, I got my best grades the semester I took 21 credits (and filmed a tv show, a couple student films, etc.). But I also have realized that sometimes, I need down time. I need to wake up on a Saturday morning and have no plans. Then I can putter in my garden, go for a hike, go see a movie, or just laze on the couch. So what's the balance? Judge Trott was talking about how for him, being a musician AND a lawyer allowed him to be successful at both because he never burned out on either, he could retreat to the law or retreat to music and come back refreshed, grateful to have time to address the other part of his life. In what part of my life can I find renewal? Work has been almost all I do for so long now, how do I break out of it? What can I add in to make me a more complete human? And if I do add anything, how do I manage to do it well, succeed at work, make it to the gym, hold up my end of my relationship, keep the house reasonably clean, and still have some lazy Saturdays?

Also, being in San Francisco for the week is great. There are museums and great theater and fantastic restaurants. Even alone it's a lot of fun. I love walking to work and going out after without depending on a car. But, I am reminded why I don't want to live in a city this size ever again: the ubiquitous smell of urine, the sirens, the jack hammer outside my office. I wish a good compromise existed. Anyone know great cities with lots of high paying and rewarding jobs for lawyers? (No, I still haven't found a job for when my clerkship ends).
17 April 2009 @ 03:49 pm
It's Friday, and almost the end of my work day and there's no real point in starting the next thing I need to do. Plus, I'm slightly bouncy.

Tonight I go to the opening game of the Reno Aces, not just the home opener for the season, but the first home game ever.

Tomorrow, we drive to San Francisco to go to a boat show at Jack London park. Sail boats and ocean and sunshine, oh my!

Tomorrow night we're staying at a friend's houseboat in Sausalito. I've never slept on a boat (it's more house-y than boat-y but I'm not allowing that to dampen my excitement). And we'll drive across the Golden Gate Bridge into the city for breakfast.

Then Sunday, a Giants game. Funny, it's Giants v. Diamondbacks and the Aces are the Diamondbacks minor league affiliate. It will be baseball and ocean and sunshine, oh my!

We'll also probably stop at Swan's for oysters, beer, and clam chowder.

And in even better news, my boss is out of town Monday so there's no real harm if I sleep a little late to recover from my weekend.

Yay weekend!
05 March 2009 @ 10:27 am
As I was commenting about someone else's trip, I realized, some of you know Arizona and could maybe make food/activity suggestions. R and I are escaping the snow and the cold to go celebrate spring by watching Cactus League baseball and drinking beer. We're flying into Phoenix and staying in Scottsdale (which is where the Giants play).

We only have three days, and the goal is to relax as much as possible. Any great food or beautiful things we shouldn't miss?
29 December 2008 @ 02:52 pm
I frequently depend on all of you to introduce to internet content that I will actually like. I am very late to see this, but it was on a list of 2008's best viral videos and I wanted to make sure I shared it. If you haven't seen Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog (a Joss Whedon musical starring Neil Patrick Harris and Nathan Fillion), you should. It's about 45 minutes total, so skip some other tv show and watch this instead.
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04 November 2008 @ 09:54 am
I, like nearly 42% of registered voters in Nevada, voted early. Part of me is sad that I don't get to go vote today, in the excitement of election day.

I have never before hoped so fervently that Karl Rove is right.
10 October 2008 @ 12:08 pm
It's snowing here. I'd post pictures, but you all know what snow looks like. I work on the 7th floor and the clouds have socked in the city and the snow is coming down like crazy. It's a beautiful January day.

What's that?

It's October?

It's the beginning of October?

No way.
15 July 2008 @ 10:58 am
In the "I haven't posted in a while" category, an update:

Life is sometimes hard.Collapse )

We've been with R's mother and his family a lot over the last two weeks, but I returned to work last week and have been busily trying to catch up with work before I leave here at the end of August. My last day is August 22nd and my first day at my new job is the 28th, so no vacation. But my new judge has already given me time off to be at a certain wedding in September that I am very much looking forward to, and I'm guaranteed a raise by the federal pay guidelines (I'll be JSP 12).

I have tomatoes growing in my garden (along with some herbs and some flowers). They've been slightly wilty and sad due to our recent long absences. My cats are stressed out and shedding, see recent long absences, and my dog had arthroscopic elbow surgery for bilateral elbow dysplaisa. Her surgery leads to adventures in how to keep an 18 month old lab from bounding, jumping, and wiggling, so that she can recover from surgery. Recommendations and advice welcome.

Trying to get out from under oppressive levels of credit card and student loan debt. Grateful for my relationships and my family. Hopeful for new work opportunities. Working to make my life more rewarding and fulfilling. Wishing life wasn't so hard, but enjoying it most of the time anyway.
11 June 2008 @ 02:35 pm
I was reading one article (Kozinski posts porn) when I saw this and had to share it. Starbuck and Six ride together on their days off. How neat is that?
28 May 2008 @ 09:19 am
Yesterday, someone said something about "if you have not posted in the last 2 weeks but you are still reading.... how about an update on your life, okay?" (Yes, dervishspin, I'm paying attention).

I update really rarely, but I read LJ everyday (at least once). This "challenge" makes me think about whether I refrain from posting because I'm convinced that no one cares about the minutiae of my day even though I constantly read about the small happenings in other people's lives, and love it. Even feel distantly connected (in a good way) to a large group of people because of it. I made, keep, and read this because of those connections (that and it's entertaining procrastination).

I got an email from a friend late last week that I haven't spoken to in about two years. Well, a lot has happened in the last two years of my life, so much that when he asked me what had happened I really didn't know how to answer. Thinking about LJ's purpose as maintaining, or even establishing, a connection with people is illustrated by the fact that if I came into town or some of you came out west I'd be able to have a conversation with most of you without that intensely awkward moment of what's been going on in the last five years? and LJ is the only real reason.

Obviously, not everything about our lives is on LJ, but I get to hear tidbits about co-housing, babies (and once-were-babies and soon-to-be-babies), new houses, moving to distant places, ski trips, motorcycles, LARPs, school, family, exercise, clothes, new jobs, big things and little things that make us all who we are.

So I'm taking this moment to thank you all for sharing. Maybe, I'll stop doing so much lurking and share a little more myself.